I met him in English class.
Vuong Thuy Hoa
Dear Afraid of Limping,
In the letter, you don’t say how old you are (for example, are you 40 and he is 32? Or are you 32 and he is 24)?
But in short, congratulations, you are having an experience that not all women have: falling in love with someone younger.
Step 1: The young man attacks massively, overwhelming the woman.
Step 2: When a woman falls in love, she is full of confidence, thinking that she can defeat the young `kids` (how can she be as experienced as me!).
Step 3: Women have low self-esteem and realize that experience is nothing, youth is important.
Step 4: The woman is jealous because she is afraid of losing.
Step 5: Real loss.
Reading the words `sneaky` in your letter, I see that you are probably in step 3 or step 4.
Your mentality of wanting to quit may be due to the fear of pain and you are even more determined because `the first thing to do is to give up` (literally, to act first to avoid suffering).
Yes, it’s true that I’m a bit angry and afraid of being abandoned.
It’s funny that when women enter a relationship with an age gap, one thing always stands in their way, which is the word `lame`.
“Meeting other girls” is a natural thing for us men, at the age of 28. As well as being generous, not fighting, should be the characteristics of women your age. You say you don’t want to lose
Now that you have a lover, `enjoy` that precious time.
But I became more and more jealous, the more I felt like I was inferior to my boyfriend’s young girlfriends…
Don’t look for advantages and disadvantages in yourself and compare yourself with young girls, because of that he knows better than you, but still chooses you.
So I just sit and wait for the day he leaves me?
I think you’re still in love, and while no one else has appeared, you’re just happy with what you have, and let your lover freely fly (as long as it’s not too high and too far).
Be patient and watch him grow and mature.
And since he will “wake up”, don’t be attached to anything in the meantime.
After all, in love, sooner or later one of you will `wake up`.
Is there a more worthy man?
In my opinion, your boyfriend is probably still a long way from being `awake` (if this relationship really doesn’t have a financial element), so if you’re still happy, relax and let this relationship `breathe`.
And if you’re already `bored` so much, and there’s someone else, then you just leave him.
Story: T.T – Photos: Jutta Klee/Corbis
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